Surrender to what is. Say yes to life and you will discover how life suddenly begins to work for rather than against you.
Surrender does not mean that you bow and kowtow to every opinion or reaction presented to you by others. It means to realise and fully accept that the present moment is all you will ever have. You had a past moment and hopefully you lived it well. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as though you have chosen it and work with it, not against it.
If your present moment contains emotional pain then this is merely your non-acceptance. It is your resistance to what is and of course can be measured by the degree of pain which depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment. You choose how you feel in any given moment be it past, present or future. No-one else can do this for you. You are wholly responsible for your own emotional gauge.
If your present moment is unpleasant it is because your mind has judged it so. The pain of the moment is born of fear, anger, shame, jealousy, dread; all those emotions that reside way below love, reason and peace.
Painful experiences of your past leave a residue that accumulates with other past pain and feeds on the energy that resonates with it. One way to alleviate this pain is to go into yourself. Observe the pain for what it is. Feel its energy. When you take your attention to it, its identification is immediately broken. In other words, the resistance will cease when you become conscious of it and remain present only as a witness. Rather like you are looking at it as a picture on a wall. You enter the present moment. You have accessed the power of Now.
Fear is many shapes. It is anxiety, worry, tension, stress, shyness that stems from what ‘might’ occur. While you are focused on the future rather than on the present moment you are giving your mind sustenance for fear. You have absolute control in your now moment and you can hold your own but the minute you allow yourself to creep into the future, you are building a recipe for fear in the form of dread.
Of course when you are looking forward to something with excitement and joy, then you are sustaining those emotional pleasures and in itself is a recipe to happiness and success in all fields of life.
Ego is foe rather than friend. Ego is vulnerable and frightened of extermination. It detests being wrong and will fight the truth at whatever cost, but when humility steps in the ego, although reluctant, will step aside.
To admit a wrongness, the ego sees it as facing the gallows and will do all it can to defend itself before it will submit. When it sees that sense of self is not seriously compromised through an error of judgement then the need to be right will dissipate. So long as ego is conducting your life path you cannot be truly at peace with yourself. Death of the ego is the beginning of a most magnificent life.
Time is an illusion. Being in and focusing on the now is a place where timelessness resides. So how do you enter into the realm of timelessness? By being present now. Go inside yourself for a moment and notice how you meander from past to future. The past had a now and the future will have a now. You lived now. You are living now and you will live now.
The future you visit is in your imagination and is working toward an eventual now. If your imagined future is hopeful and happy then your sense of anticipation will bring forth happiness. However if your imaginings are imbued with dread or fear then this will result in anxiety and stress.
You do not need to judge yourself or your tendency to travel back or forward in time. Simply stand outside yourself and observe these acts of revisitation. This action will bring you into the Now. The Now is safe. It cannot hurt you but when you foresee though your imaginings your mind can concoct a myriad of explosive unpleasantness or incredible bliss and joy. It is your choice what you foresee.
You are reminded that what you think about and imagine most of the time you will bring about to your life experience. Does it not make sense then to be present in the Now? Being in the Now is who you are.